“Sorry”

Saying “sorry” doesn’t fix things.

I really don’t want to start listing my pet peeves in this blog because that just gets old after a while.  But there is one thing that irks me that I’m not sure irks other people.  It is people who think that saying “sorry” is a magic cure-all to fix any problem. They are under the impression that they can run rough shod over everyone but if they say “sorry”, people shouldn’t be mad at them anymore.  After all, they said “sorry”!

Saying “sorry” doesn’t fix things.

An example of this (one of many, many examples) happened to me a long time ago.  Someone in my life borrowed something of mine without permission.  She, this person, thinks that people won’t mind if she borrows things because anyone is free to borrow her things.  So she borrowed something of mine.  And then lost it.  When I confronted her about it, she said, rather flippantly, “sorry!”  As if that fixed the problem. As if “sorry” made it ok that she went through my things, took something without asking and then lost it.  She was even rather irked when I asked for a replacement of the item.  After all, she did say “sorry”. For her, that was the end of it.

Saying “sorry” doesn’t fix things.

There are other people in my life who continually do things on their own without regard to other people’s thoughts, feelings or responsibilities. This is very disrespectful because they treat people as if they don’t matter. Only what THEY want to do matters.  And if you confront them about it?  “Sorry” is the usual response.  As if that makes it all better.

Saying “sorry” doesn’t fix things.

Just popping out a “sorry” when confronted isn’t a sincere apology.  A sincere apology is when one is truly repentant about what they did, regrets it, and wants the other person to forgive them.  Just popping out a “sorry” isn’t any of those things.  It doesn’t repair a relationship. It doesn’t make everything right. It is cavalier, shallow and self-centered.

Saying “sorry” doesn’t fix things.

And, in case you were wondering, putting an “oops” in front of it REALLY doesn’t fix things.  I won’t even get into how irritating that is for me!